Hi Joe, I look back now and think maybe the cruelest thing a father can do is to hide himself away from his kids. I made peace with my dad when he was older, but there are still unanswered questions. Who was he, what did he think, how did he feel about us and who we had become. I left him once, hugged him, whispered I loved him, and he stood with his arms down and said "ditto" just like the movie. I said you are a prick old man, but consistent. He just laughed. I agree Joe, and you said it better than I did, I miss what could have been. T